Hello! I have actually gotten a lot of questions about this.
First, everyone has to acknowledge that even though this is a “live” show and there were callers “randomly” asking questions – the calls are screened and the topics that are acceptable to allow through are allowed.
That said, Chris and his team still have say about what he answers and doesn’t – Chris completely deflected the question about Lea and Naya – so he clearly has the right to not answer and move on.
The question was a set up.
Andy moves from the phone-in questions and simply states that they have gotten ‘ALOT’ of people asking if he has a boyfriend?
stop and think about that.
Chris has a large fan base – most of whom are very respectful (as it should be) of his private life which he has fiercely protected (as he has every right to). So for me to accept that “a lot” of fans called in and asked this – is just asinine.
It is highly reminiscent of when he was asked last year, on the Huffington Post, the one and only personal question about whether he and Darren were friends or enemies – it also was a set up that Chris rolled into the “Not in a relationship” answer where his mind and his body could not agree on the answer
(the battle between the yes nod and the no shake if you can’t see it)
How far he has come in a year. 🙂
I made a video of this moment and broke it down into two parts – the second part having 5 discernible phases.
the question and answer in real time
PART TWO: Slow motion in phases
PHASE ONE: (9 – 10seonds)
The shocked and stunned face over the question being asked in the first place.
Chris processed the shock of the question in UNDER ONE SECOND – stop and think about that rationally and understand that we DON’T process the unexpected like that.
We have automatic responses we anticipate daily. the whole “Hello, how are you? Fine thanks, and you?”
But this – COMPLETELY UNEXPECTED QUESTION – THAT SHOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN ASKED (and has not been asked in the past for a reason) AS CHRIS’ TEAM WOULD HAVE PUT IT ON THE NOT OK TOPIC LIST
Yeah – keep telling yourself it was unexpected!
And – as a side note – lets talk about the response that Andy gave. “congratulations” ??!!!
Did Chris just win a prize at the state fair?
PHASE TWO: (10 – 21seconds)
The emphatic answer “yes I do”.
Chris is nodding his head – he is moving his toroso forward and backward. All physical indicators that he is moving toward the question in a positive manner. (again, unlike last year on Huffington)
He WANTED to answer this question – he has possibly been waiting a long time to answer this question.
The only physical indicators of his discomfort (as this is a huge step out of his comfort zone of privacy) are his hands gripping the chair and his right foot twitching.
PHASE THREE: (22 – 27seconds)
The giddy, bashful and embarrassed smile.
Chris looks at Andy and shares a moment of “I did it – I said it out loud”
He is so proud of himself – and certainly Andy was to (we just didn’t get to see that reaction)
PHASE FOUR: (28 – 30 seconds) My personal favorite
Chris looked away from Andy and had a moment completely in his own mind.
It is clear he is completely visualizing the man he just spoke of
he is feeling a surge of joy and happiness at the memory of this relationship and the peace, comfort and security it has given him and made him willing to make this statement publically in the first place.
Chris is head over heals in love with the man whom he just spoke of.
The softness of his face and smile in these two seconds comes from a very deep rooted sense of “we” – no longer just “I”
PHASE FIVE: Chris’ Darren smile
Smiles and looks brought about because Darren said something or Darren was simply present.
I have been asked a lot last night and this morning if I had any fear that Chris could be talking about anyone else other than Darren.
My answer is an emphatic NO!
I have not had a single doubt about the status of this relationship in so long – I don’t recall the last time I questioned it.
Chris is being so open and talking freely in ways he simply does not need to – he WANTS to
note the difference this year vs even just last year.
He is including Darren in answers, that Darren isn’t necessarily a vital part of the answer – but he chooses to – as Darren is a vital part of his life and these are things he finds it important to point out.
Chris is a very calculated and smart man.
He knows what he wants – and he will do exactly that.
He is the one to keep an eye on.
He is talking – are you listening?
Stay strong all!!
NEVER ISN’T EVEN THE VOCABULARY HERE!
TLOS:p435. “he wasn’t the friendly frog man who’d saved her in the collapsing castle anymore: He was husband material.”(the use of the colon shows how the writer defines/describes froggy)But for just a moment think about Chris and Darren and associate this to them – They moved from a relationship where they had metaphorically rescued one another – and moved into “husband material”